By TemptationsAvenue.com
You’ve just met someone, and you are having a great time but when you feel like doing what you want in the bedroom you have to tame the beast inside you. You are afraid of how your partner might react if you tell him or her how you really feel. Maybe you are in a relationship where things have gone a little stale and you could use a new approach to your relationship to add more excitement to it. The main point is that you want to try something kinky, but you have no clue how to go about it without being looked at as intimidating, awkward, weird or a control freak. No worries, my friend. I am here to assist you with some advice to help you introduce kinky sex into your relationship—the right way.
Keep Surprises to a Minimum: I know you may be tempted to walk into the bedroom with whips, chains or whatever your sexual fantasy calls for but that may hurt your relationship rather than help it. The best way to score kink points is to take it one step at a time. It is quite rare to have an awesome partner that would love to try things that you are into right away but if your partner has separate interest it is only right to show some respect. Who knows? Your kinky desires may motivate them to try something new. Look at it this way: Taking baby steps is an investment regarding your sex life. More options in the bedroom equals less boredom.
Once You Try Something Kinky With your Partner Look for Signals: The best example of this would be to start off slow by introducing something new while paying attention to your partner’s feelings. Let’s use handcuffs for example. Handcuffs are small supplies for BDSM that is the best option for beginners. If you notice your partner’s facial expressions are not what you expect or if he or she shows signs of discontent, ask them what they are feeling. You may have a solution to fix it. Your partner may say that the cuffs are too tight. You can loosen them or switch to the cuffs that have padded leather. You can even use a scarf. Then try again. If your partner feels better, then you will be able to pick up on that vibe and try another tactic to include. If your partner does not like what you are introducing don’t force it on them. Not only does it ruin the moment, but it can lead to resentment causing further relationship issues.
Find Out What Your Partner’s Kinks Are: If you are having a hard time finding common ground with your partner then the best way to introduce kinky sex to your partner is to have a little talk about fantasies and ask him or her what fantasies they want to explore. You can point out to them that even fantasizing about things that seem unrealistic is kinky. It helps to point out what categories are deemed as kinky, so your partner can have a better understanding of how sexual exploration works.
Be Subtle: If all else fails or if you are debating about which piece of advice to try first then read this. To make a long, agonizing process short start with a scenario. Use hypothetical scenarios like, “I had a dream about us doing – “. Ask him or her what they think. Once you do this then you have your answer. This is also the best way to bring up the subject without fear of judgement. You might need to try this advice first then proceed to the other tips when you do not get a good reaction or if your partner is still having doubts.
Have you tried any of the tips above? Have you experienced a similar situation? Leave a comment to tell us how it went.
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