It’s just like the song says, Talk Dirty to Me. It may seem forced or embarrassing, but there is actually a science behind dirty talk and why it’s so effective.
Talking dirty activates all regions of the brain while your body is getting stimulated. These regions of the brain are the same as those that become stimulated when we curse, so the dirtier the better.
But if you are reading this article, it’s likely you don’t care too much about the science behind talking dirty, you just want to hear more about what to say and when to say it. With that in mind, here are some tips for how to talk to dirty so you can drive your man wild in bed.
A Time and a Place for Everything
When it comes to talking dirty, you can do it in bed, over the phone or really just about anywhere as long as your ready for some crazy sex. Dirty talk is sure to drive your guy wild and it’s not nice to tease! So here are some examples of when you will want to talk dirty and what type of things you can say.
In a Public Place
Say you and your partner are out in public together and suddenly you get the urge to rip his clothes off right then and there. Well, there’s no reason you shouldn’t express your feelings with some great dirty talk. Here are some examples of things you can say.
- I want you.
- If we weren’t in this mall, I would rip your clothes off and do naughty things to you.
- Do you want to get busy in the restroom?
- Do you think we would get arrested for having crazy sex in the car in the parking lot?
- Too bad we’re at the gym. I’d rather be in bed with you.
- If we were at home, I’d have your cock in my mouth.
- I’m not wearing panties.
- Do you think the Victoria Secret salesgirl would be down for a threesome?
- Those jeans show off your bulge nicely.
- I feel like taking off my clothes and fucking you right now.
Once You Get Him Alone
It’s pretty safe to say that talking dirty to your man in a public place will make both of you want to come home instantly and rip each other’s clothes off…if you even make it that far. Here are some things you can say to turn him on once you get home.
These are some dirty things to say that can also be used when both of you are at home and you’re suddenly feeling horny.
- I’ve been having dirty thoughts all day.
- I can’t wait to feel you inside me.
- Let’s go to the bedroom.
- You know what would make today better? A good fuck.
- Let’s fuck.
- Take off your clothes.
- Do you want to go upstairs?
- I want to give you the best blowjob ever.
- I want you right now.
- Let’s spend the rest of the day in bed.
When you are in bed, you can take things up a notch. This is the time to be vocal about the things you want so be sure to make your dirty talk sex as hot as possible. Here are some dirty things to say in bed that will turn him on during foreplay or right in the middle of the act itself.
- Harder, faster.
- Yes, right there.
- I’m gonna cum.
- Holy shit, I’m cumming.
- Fuck me!
- I’m dripping wet.
- I love your dick.
- I want to feel you inside me.
- (His name)
- Cum on my boobs.
Of course, some men get turned on when a woman tells him something that makes him feel loved and needed. If your man gets excited when he hears this type of talk, here are some things you will want to say to him.
- I love you.
- You feel so good.
- I love your body.
- What can I do to please you?
- No one has ever satisfied me the way you do.
- You make me feel amazing.
- I’m so glad you’re mine.
- I want to do things with you I’ve never done before.
- You make it feel like it’s my first time.
- You’ve ruined me for all men.
The Art of Modern Technology
Modern technology has definitely opened doors when it comes to sex. You can have virtual sex via text messages, over the phone, via Skype and the list goes on.
When it comes to sexting or over the phone sex, you may be at a loss for what to say or what to write. Well, never fear. Here is some dirty sex talk that is guaranteed to get him hot.
Over the Phone: If you are in a long-distance relationship, be prepared for a bunch of over the phone sex sessions. Here is some freaky stuff to say to your boyfriend that is sure to keep him satisfied despite the miles between you.
- I wish you were here with me.
- What are you wearing?
- Are you touching yourself? How does it feel?
- I want to touch you.
- I love your voice.
- That makes me so hot.
- I’m about to cum.
- I’m going to put the phone on my pussy.
- I’m cumming.
- I want to hear you cum.
Sexting: Sexting is a great way to excite your partner. If you are planning to see each other soon, you can put your sexy talk in the form of a text to make them so horny, they will barely be able to wait until the next time they see you. Here are some examples of hot texts you can send your partner.
- I can’t wait to rip your clothes off.
- Last night was so hot, tonight’s gonna be even hotter.
- I can’t stop thinking about you.
- When I see you, I’m going to give you the hottest blow job ever.
- I can barely concentrate. I just keep thinking of having sex with you.
- I’m so horny, where are you?
- My panties are soaking wet.
- I miss your dick.
- I can’t wait until you’re inside of me.
- I need you right now.
Sub and Dom Sex Talk
Some couples just can’t get enough of BDSM. This is a type of sex that involves pain and bondage as well as degradation and humiliation.
BDSM always has a sub and dom. The dom is the person that tells the sub what to do and the sub is the one obeying orders. All actions in BDSM must be consensual and should be enjoyable for both parties.
If you are curious about BDSM, the things you say in bed can set the tone and you can decide if you want to go further.
But no matter what stage you are at in BDSM, here are some things to say during sex that will really turn on a sub when spoken by a dom.
- Lie down and take it.
- Worship me.
- I want to tie you up.
- Get on your knees.
- You want the whip.
- Obey me or face your punishment.
- Say my name.
- Take all your clothes off.
- Beg for it.
- Take all of me inside you.
Part of the BDSM fun is having a sub who is willing to bend to your will. With that in mind, here are some dirty talking sex tips for things to say that are sure to drive your dom wild.
- Spank me.
- I’ve been a bad girl.
- I need to be punished.
- Please let me suck your dick.
- I’ll do anything you say.
- How can I serve you?
- What would you like me to do for you today?
- How can I make you feel good?
- Your wish is my command.
- I will worship you forever.
Flirty Dirty Talk
Now you know a bunch of dirty things to say to your boyfriend. But what about when you first meet a guy?
Say you meet a hot guy and you really want him. Maybe he isn’t exactly relationship material, but you just want him for the night.
The best thing to do is pepper your conversation with sexual innuendo to let him know you want to take it to the next level. If that is the case, here are some things you will want to say.
- I’d love to talk with you somewhere more private.
- Where do you live?
- What are you doing later?
- Do you want to swing by for a nightcap?
- I find you very sexy.
- Are you involved with anyone right now?
- Let’s do something crazy.
- Do you work out? (a great way to make physical contact)
- What are some of your turn ons?
- So, did you drive here?
- I want to have sex with you. (sometimes guys just won’t get the hint any other way)
Thinking of What to Say During Dirty Talking Sex
We have just provided you with some things you can say during and before sex, but not everyone is the same. In order to feel comfortable, you must say things that suit your personality. Here are some things you can keep in mind that will help your dirty talk flow naturally.
Compliment Your Man: Everyone loves to feel good in bed. Paying your partner compliments can make them feel more confident which can lead to better sex.
You can compliment your partner by telling him how attractive he is, or you can let him know how good he is making you feel. Either tactic should serve to make the sex hotter and grow intimacy in your relationship.
Tease: The words you say before sex can also be a big turn on that can serve to make the sex hotter. As you get undressed, try saying things like, “I’ve been thinking of you all day.” Or start to undress and then stop to tell him how turned on you are.
This starting and stopping will work to tease him and build excitement to make the sex hotter.
Describe: Use words to describe what you are doing and how the contact you have with your partner is making you feel. Saying things like “I’m going to kiss you all over” and “I’m going to suck you off,” can build excitement immensely.
Of course, you should also describe how you are feeling by saying things like, “I feel so good” and “I’m so turned on right now”.
Share Fantasies: Telling your partner about your fantasies can get both of you turned on. Think of things you want to do to yourself, with them, or even with another person…as long as there is no jealousy involved.
Some men get turned on by hearing you talk about a threesome, even though the other person is not in the room. This can provide the excitement of threesome sex without the complications that another person can bring to a relationship.
Take Control: Once you feel confident with dirty talk, you may be ready to take it to the next level by taking control. This can be a turn on in any situation and it can also be a good way to see if you are ready to incorporate BDSM into your sexual activities.
Start by telling your partner to undress article of clothing by article of clothing. Then tell them exactly how you would like to be touched. There’s no telling where the night will go from there.
It’s Not What You Say, It’s How You Say It
Now you know a few sexy things to say during sex and before sex. But it’s more than just what you say, it’s how you say it.
When you talk dirty to your partner, it is important for you to sound confident. This may seem like a no brainer. After all, no one wants to hear their partner say, “could you, um, take off your pants please?’
No, they want someone who says ‘take off your pants’ in a way that makes them feel like their pants could melt right off.
However, if you are not comfortable talking dirty, achieving this level of confidence can be easier said than done.
It’s a good idea to start off slowly. Use words you are used to saying but are slightly more risqué. Words like wet, hard, fuck, tits and suck should all be in your arsenal. Find out what turns on your partner most and try to use those words as much as possible.
If you don’t feel like you can talk dirty comfortably, you can also write little messages on your hand like ‘touch me’ or ‘you make me hot’. Hopefully, in time, you will be able to express these feelings verbally.
Another tip on how to talk dirty is to make sure you always do so when using a deep husky voice. It is best to get as close to a whisper as possible.
Increasing your breathing is a great way to express that you are turned on and this also sets the tone for a husky whisper that is sure to turn your partner to liquid.
It’s also a good idea to talk directly into your partners ear.
Ears are super sensitive to touch, probably due to the large number of nerve endings present in this part of the body. The feeling of your breath on the ear will further increase feelings of pleasure making your partner even more excited.
Set the Scene for Dirty Talking Sex
You might know what to say during sex and how to talk dirty to a guy, but to really make it effective, you need to set the scene. Be sure to provide low lighting and dress up in your sexiest lingerie to set the scene.
Scented candles are ideal because they provide the right ambiance and a sweet smell can serve as even more of a turn on for most men.
Playing sexy music will also work to make your bedroom sexy.
Be sure the thermostat is turned up a bit, but not uncomfortably so. If it’s too cold, no one will feel like taking off their clothes and if it’s too hot, no one will feel like moving!
Dirty talk can be a huge turn on in the bedroom. Hopefully this article has provided you with some valuable tips on how to dirty talk. Now all you have to do is take it into the bedroom to find out how it can improve your love life.