If you have a friend that’s getting married, a bachelorette party is in order. But if going to a strip club isn’t her style and everything else seems a bit ho-hum and boring, a lingerie party may be the way to go.
What is a Lingerie Party?
A lingerie party, or lingerie shower, is an occasion where a bride to be and her closest friends get together to give her lingerie shower gifts that are meant to be worn throughout her marriage. The party is not usually hosted by the bride but one of her close friends.
If you are hosting a lingerie shower for your friend, you might want your event to double as a surprise party for the bride to be. However, it is important to make sure the bride is comfortable with the idea of having a lingerie party. If this is not the case, the party won’t be enjoyable for anyone.
Once you get the green light to go ahead with the lingerie bachelorette party, you may still be at a loss when it comes to what to do and how to do it. Well, don’t fret. This article will provide you with great lingerie party ideas, lingerie shower gift ideas and all you need to know about throwing a lingerie party that will be remembered for years to come.
Where Should I Hold the Lingerie Bridal Shower?
Part of the fun at a lingerie party is having the bride to be model her lingerie. Therefore, you want to find a location where she will feel comfortable. Hosting the event at the house of a friend or relative is ideal.
However, there are also lingerie retail shops that provide venues for hosting lingerie parties. These are ideal because there will be a wide variety of lingerie already in the shop. Guests can model lingerie to find pieces they like for themselves as well as their guest of honor.
Making the Guest List
It is customary that the host of a lingerie party, rather than the bride, is the one making up the guest list. This can get a bit tricky, and it’s not a bad idea to consult the bride about who she wants to invite beforehand. In any case, it’s best to invite close members of the bride’s family to ensure no one gets insulted or feels left out.
What Should I Serve at the Lingerie Shower?
Lingerie showers are generally more like cocktail parties. Therefore, you will want to have plenty of cocktails on hand! You can also serve hors d-oeuvres like crackers and cheese, fruit and other types of appetizer items. It’s also a good idea to provide some sexy sweets like chocolate covered strawberries.
How Should I Decorate for My Lingerie Party?
You don’t have to go out of your way to decorate for your lingerie party. Establishing a color theme will suffice.
Choose a color that is feminine and sexy and carry it through with matching tableware and perhaps some balloons and streamers. To produce a sexy vibe, you can also lay boas around.
What are Some Popular Lingerie Shower Activities?
Your lingerie shower ideas should include ideas for activities that will take place during the party. Of course, the unwrapping and modeling of lingerie gifts will take up a major portion of your party, but if there are hours to fill, here are some other activities that will make the event even more fun.
Lingerie Hot Potato: This game will require finding lingerie that might not be the most attractive. Wrap it up in layers of gift wrap.
Just like the game hot potato, the lingerie will be thrown from party guest to party guest while music is being played. Once the music stops, the guest holding the lingerie will have to take off a layer of gift wrap.
The unlucky guest that takes off the last layer of gift warp will have to model the lingerie.
Mystery Bag: Have each guest bring a small gift that shows off her personality. Have the bride take the gift out of a bag and guess who gave it to her.
Lingerie Shower Bingo: Create Bingo cards with words like ‘cute’, ‘sexy’ and ‘lingerie’. The guests will cross these words off their cards as they are spoken during the night. The first guest to get BINGO wins a prize.
The Newlywed Game: The Newlywed Game was a game show on TV where newlyweds were separated and asked personal questions about their spouse to determine how well they knew each other. You can enact your own version of the game by asking the groom to answer certain questions in advance. Then compare them to how the bride’s answers at the party to see how they match up.
One thing to note, although it is customary for the bride to model the lingerie she received during the party, she may not be comfortable doing so. Be sure to consult with her before the party to make sure she isn’t being pressured into doing anything she does not want to do.
What Should I Get for the Bride?
Since your party is centered around the lingerie shower gift, you will want to make sure that both you and your guests get the bride exactly what she wants.
Lingerie is very personal and, even though the element of surprise is important when giving a friend a gift, you should be sure to take some time to find out what the bride really likes and wants. There may be colors and styles she prefers. Also, be sure to find out her measurements.
Once you get this information, let everyone on your guest list know so they can be sure to get the bride a gift she will be happy with. It’s a good idea to put this directly on the invitations so you know everyone is on the same page and has plenty of time to find her something she likes.
Every woman is different and various tastes may come into play, but here are some bridal shower lingerie ideas that your guest of honor might enjoy.
Bridal Lingerie: Everyone will want to get the bride to be bridal lingerie. Traditionally, the bride will want to wear white lingerie that mimics a wedding dress on her wedding night and perhaps throughout her honeymoon.
It is important to note that guests should not overdo it on the bridal lingerie as it will be unclear how many pieces the bride will want. She also may not wear her bridal lingerie very often. Therefore, guests should consult each other to make sure she is not getting too many of these pieces.
The type of bridal lingerie you buy the bride to be can vary. Some may want a classy white slip that is reminiscent of a wedding gown. Others may want a teddie that comes complete with white fishnets and a veil. Think of her personality to find what’s right for her.
Other Types of Bachelorette Lingerie: Some women might not want white lingerie at all. They may prefer different colors and styles.
If you have done your homework, you have already found out what colors the bride to be prefers. If in doubt, black always works as a sexy color. Other sexy tones include jewel tone like deep reds, purples and greens. If your bride to be is more of an extrovert, she might enjoy a bright red or pink.
When it comes to styles, the sky is the limit. There are plenty of teddies, chemises, baby dolls and other items to choose from. Try to consider her body type to find a style that works best for her.
Thinking Outside the Box with your Bridal Shower Lingerie Gift: Many guests will get the bride to be lingerie that is meant for sexy time with her husband, but there are also pieces of lingerie that are more practical. Getting her a gift like this will ensure that you are getting her something she wants and needs.
Some examples of these items include bras, panties and bra and panty sets. You can even find panties that say ‘I do’ or ‘Just Married’ which may be the perfect thing when it comes to what she will wear under her wedding gown.
Other practical items can include robes or pajamas. A great silky pair of pajamas or a satiny robe will be elegant, practical and make her feel luxurious.
Of course, guests should be considerate and not think too far outside the box. It is best to stay away from fetish lingerie unless she specifically asked for it. The last thing we want is for the guest of honor to be offended!
Other Type of Gifts: Aside from lingerie, there are other types of gifts a bride might enjoy like bedroom toys. It is best to refrain from giving your guest of honor any type of actual sex toys as this could embarrass her. However, gifts like edible panties, scented candles, massage oils and bath bombs could go over quite well.
Lingerie Party Gifts
Even though your lingerie party will be your time to celebrate the bride and shower her with gifts, you can also give gifts to your guests. To fit the theme of your party, you can give them small pieces of lingerie such as a garter or garter belt. Small bottles of perfume or cosmetics will also do nicely.
It’s possible that some of your party guests may be planning to give your guest of honor a gag gift. Depending on what the gift is, it’s possible this item may offend her. As the host of your party, it is best to monitor gag gifts and you may even want to put a note about them on the invitation.
In general, gag gifts are best given to the bride in private or not at all unless the giver is confident that this is an item the bride and guests are sure to enjoy.
After the Party
After the party is over, your hosting duties are not completely over…and we don’t just mean sticking around to clean up!
As far as posting pictures on social media goes, this should be avoided unless you are confident the pictures don’t’ show anything anyone would be embarrassed of if revealed in public.
You should also keep a list of the gifts the bride got at her party and who gave them to her. This will come in handy if she wants to send out thank you notes.
If you were wondering ‘what is a lingerie shower’, hopefully this article has provided you with all you need to know. Basically, it’s a great way to celebrate the end of your friend’s life as a single woman providing a gathering of her closest friends and relatives as well as way to get naughty without letting things get too far out of hand.
So, is there anything we missed? What do you like to see included in your lingerie showers? Don’t be too embarrassed to let us know!